H&L The three of you had your own careers going on. What brought you together?
Kim Dav and I were asked to sing together at an event with another woman a number of years ago. People told us how great it was and suggested we record together. But we all had solo careers and different things we wanted to do.
A few years later Dav and I sang together again, loved the sound and entertained the thought of singing together. One day we were discussing who a third could be. Tara’s song came on the radio, we were friends and loved her music so we felt this was the sign we needed. When we got together we didn’t know what we would do, that didn’t develop until we sang together. When we did, it sounded amazing, it was sheer magic.
H&L How do your three personalities and different ages fit together?
Kim Great! We’re all different people and that’s what makes it work. We respect each other but truthfully it’s about the music. I’m the senior (with a huge laugh). I’m 41; Dav is 31 and Tara 33.
Dav Kim and I are from the same place – ‘The Rock’. There’s no generational gap in Newfoundland – 85 year olds play music with 16 year olds. Tara’s from PEI and it’s the same there.
Kim Personality wise, I’m probably the safest. I’m the Mom.
Dav (interrupts): I wouldn’t say that. You’re extremely dynamic and when you’re on – you’re on 500% like nobody else in the room. I sit back in a corner because you’re like a Tasmanian devil. You also have a very conservative side that I didn’t know about until I got to know you better. You have such balance.
Kim I’m a simple gal, but smart. We all are in our own ways. I believe in family, hanging out with friends and doing something on the planet that makes a difference.
H&L Is there anything in particular you would like to do to make a difference?
Kim There’s so many big things. On a small level I want to be kind to all people. (Kim breaks into song) “To the people that I meet when I’m walking down the street each day”. To do little things that makes peoples’ lives better.
Dav I think every step someone takes, their footprints make a ripple throughout the Universe. I believe that the biggest problem people have is they think they can’t make a difference because they’re not in the public eye. I think no matter who you are or what you do, how you treat your friends and family is the truest reflection of your character. It doesn’t matter if you’re spending millions of dollars telling people how important your cause is, that’s irrelevant. How you treat other people in turn affects how they will go and treat others, and that should be with respect and fairness.
Kim I’m the learning environmentalist in the group. You have to be blind if you don’t see there’s something up with it today. Tara found out about ZeroFootprint so we decided to ZeroFootprint our CD Lake of Fire. Anything that we used environmentally to make the CD was calculated and put back into the environment, such as planting trees for the paper that was used. This is an incredible process and contribution; we’ll continue to do it.
Dav For me, one of my concerns is our soldiers in Afghanistan who I believe are caught in a political hotbed of something they didn’t choose. I’ve been to Afghanistan twice now. I believe as Canadians we have a duty to support the individual men and women – our brothers and sisters who are fighting. I don’t support war of any kind. But regardless of people’s opinions about politics and whether we should be there, to me, they’re two totally different things. I think this is an important thing for us as a nation – that’s a big cause for me.
Kim I agree.
H&L Dav you’re off to Africa. What’s the pull?
Dav Ever since I was a child I wanted to go to Africa, to travel the whole world and see everything. I think it’s so easy to live in the world wallowed in fear. My first trip to Afghanistan four years ago took the fear right out of my body and made my appetite for the world as big as it was when I was 8 years old.
I was part of a song last year called ‘Song for Africa’ to raise awareness, and raise funds for a mobile AIDS clinic in Kenya. We’re going back to Africa to make a real life documentary on this. I’m going for completely selfish reasons. I’m going to Africa so I can be affected. I want to cry, to hurt and to feel their pain. When I come back it will affect how I live here and in turn affect the people I interact with. No matter who you are, your actions affect other people.
Kim Quincy Jones was recently asked, “What quality do you most deplore in people?” His answer: “The ability to not turn darkness into light. It is a choice.” This is what makes us people – we always have a choice.
We all have different levels of hardship in our lives. There are some people who choose to feel sorry for themselves when something ‘bad’ happens and they become livid – that’ll destroy them. Then you find out about others who’ve had bad lives and decided, “No way. I’m not going to let this devour me. I’m going to be a good person. I’m going to do something with my life. I am going to turn darkness into light.” That’s admirable.
H&L Has life changed you as a Mom?
Kim Where Dav says she has “no fear” I have more. I look at the world differently and my priorities have definitely changed. My concern for the planet has increased too. My concern for safety, school and other children has increased. When you create human beings you’re responsible for them. Finding the balance as an individual, a woman with a career and never regretting that I wasn’t there for my kids. I want to be a good mom. You never know how your steps along the way are going to affect them. I watch for signs and listen to my instincts for when my kids need me. The key for me is also to know when to say, “No”. The girls and our manager are good; they know I don’t want to be on the road for long.
H&L What would you love to instill in your children?
Kim A strength of character. One of the hardest things traveling through life is figuring out how you fit in, your role and what you were put here for. I believe it’s important to learn who you are and like who you are, to respect yourself and others. I want them to be good people and find out who they are as soon as they can. There are a lot of forces in life pushing you here and there, so the sooner you know who you are the better. My husband would say that he hopes they have integrity.
H&L You’re all so busy, how do you keep the fires burning with your partners?
Kim For me, the number one thing is to be your own person, have separate entities, be a strong person and respect them for who they are. You have to understand each other and be willing to build and invest in the relationship. To continually work on it at all levels. That’s what will keep us together.
Dav Thinking about the other person before yourself.
Kim Yes. Not because you have to but because you want to.
Dav Especially when you’re in the limelight. You have to be sensitive to your partner.
H&L You gals come together as a group and also pursue your separate careers – is this difficult to navigate?
Dav We’re three different and diverse women – the branching off is the easy part. In coming together – let me give this example. I know the three of us have written a great song when we all have different opinions on what the song is about and love it. That’s perfect. We may not be agreeing but we all get what we want out of it.
Kim We accept and respect one another’s wants and priorities in life.
Dav There’s been an incredible amount of acceptance and accommodation in this group and I’m really, really proud of that. We’ve all worked at making this work for each of us.
H&L Do you ever feel that you’re competing with one another?
Dav That’s the biggest gift I’ve opened myself up to as an adult and within this group. You can have friends, who are talented, beautiful and smart. If you can’t accept the fact that you’re lucky and take what you can from it you’re missing a huge opportunity. If you’re threatened by it or jealous then you’re really wasting precious energy and time when you could be getting a lot of joy out of it.
Kim I think the key is we all have different things. That’s the key to being in a successful group or friendship. It’s important to let each other shine. It’s about embracing what makes your friends great. Humans all want respect. I’ve gotten more confidence by cheering them on.
H&L You embrace one another and the qualities you each have.
Dav & Kim (in enthusiastic unison) Yeah!!
H&L What do you love about one another?
Kim I love that Dav is very loyal. She lets me shine. Her compliments really help me.
Dav I love everything about Kim. You don’t have enough tape. I’m so happy she’s in my life. If anything good or bad happens in my life I call her right away.
H&L That’s a lovely thing to hear.
Dav It’s true! The thing about us is if we feel uncomfortable with one another we address it right away and honestly. If I do anything that would slightly offend her it would hurt my feelings so much, that I’d correct it immediately. (Kim quickly concurs).
H&L This is a good way to deal with issues.
Dav Everybody makes mistakes it’s how you deal with them that defines your strength of character. The biggest lesson my mother has taught me is to always take the high road. If you’re feeling something ugly inside, reach above and beyond it. Then it’s behind you.
Kim Perfectly said. If you’re out of integrity you feel ugly and that’s the worst feeling.
H&L Mentors in your life?
Kim Both my grandmothers. My 94 year-old grandmother lives in Newfoundland, and is one of the coolest, strongest women ever. A wife of a fisherman and ran it with him.
Dav After my folks, family and grandmother, it would have to be my theatre/arts teacher in high school. He cast me in my first play and a bunch after that. I was intimidated by him because I saw him as this amazing, charismatic man. He suffered an incredible amount of tragedy in his family: his wife and son passed away from a degenerative lung disease, and another son with the same disease had a double lung transplant after waiting a year. He personally had a brain tumour removed more than once. I’ve seen him and his family go through so much. He‘s such an inspiration to me. He’s been so proud of me and I feel so blessed that he’s been there for me.
H&L Is this why you support the Organ Donor Foundation?
Dav I spent a lot of time waiting with them for the transplant organs so it is something that’s near and dear to my heart. When Tara’s sister Shaye passed away, (the group’s namesake), she had signed her organ donor card but use of her organs had been denied because the family has to give consent even if the card is signed. Tara felt Shaye was denied the right to share and affect other people’s lives. This struck a very deep chord in Tara and since it’s in her nature to make things happen, we did a fund-raising concert for the foundation. It was a very emotional night because of our personal experiences.
H&L Challenging times of your career?
Kim I would say the balance. And everything changes. You have to have the desire to do this – it’s not an easy life but it’s a brilliant life. We just came off an amazing tour with Willie Nelson. At first I didn’t want to go because it was two weeks away from the kids but from the first night I was pinching myself. The first song I ever sang was ‘Crazy’ and here I was standing in the wings watching him sing it and we were opening for him. I think as long as the universe continues to give me signs and balances it with the other areas of my life then I know that’s what I’m to do. My kids have to be happy too; that they’re not missing me so much that it’s going to affect them.
Dav I’d say balance too. It’s difficult because I want to do everything and anything. I want to eat life up with two big spoons. And there are the times you’re at home relaxing with your man and you know you could do with a little less.
Kim It’s also about self-actualization – the happier I am the happier my kids and partner are going to be.
Kim, Tara and Dav on their docu-reality show
H&L You have a TV show starting soon. How was that?
Dav I am so grateful that there is a record of our life together. We wrapped up filming the other day with the crew and we let them know how much we loved doing this with them. Professionally this was the most challenging thing I’ve ever done.
Kim I felt it was draining because everything was under a microscope. My husband didn’t want to have anything to do with it and he didn’t want the kids in it. We had to negotiate because for me the show is about trying to balance being a mom and having a career. We had to show them a bit. The producers were very respectful of what we could and couldn’t do. It was definitely a lot of work but an amazing experience.
H&L What’s one thing you would miss in your life if you didn’t have it?
Kim On a ‘deep’ level: love and respect from my friends and family. That’s what keeps me going when I don’t feel so good about myself.
Dav I’m saying the same thing – love and respect.
Kim On a completely ‘shallow’ level – lip gloss and vanilla lattés.
Dav I won’t say vanilla lattés, I’ll say water and baths.
Be sure to watch Shaye’s four part docu-reality show on bringing together their life and career. It begins Sunday September 9, at 10:00pm on Global networks E! Channel. Produced by Breakthrough Films and Television. Visit www.shayemusic.com for their music and regular updates.