t’s this vision and attitude that prompted Leanne Fullerton, President of Toronto-based New Aspiration, to host a national tour. Fullerton elaborates: “Lisa’s sincere and passionate message in The Secret and her latest book No Matter What! speaks to our mission to ‘inspire women to be the best they can be’. Lisa is able to relate to women everywhere.”

‘Enough-ness’
Nichols’ appearance on Oprah inspired 9,782 emails revealing women’s most common question: "How can I have joy when this happened to me?” Women question their ‘enough-ness’ out loud: “Am I pretty enough? Young enough? Smart enough?” Men ask these questions silently. Women attach their future possibilities to past experiences, investing less time in their future desires and concentrating on why they don’t deserve.

"Quitters never win and winners never quit.” These wise words of support from Nichols’ grandma changed her negative inner chatter into winning outcomes.

In wisdom gained from years of learning, Nichols speaks to this question in workshops by pairing up attendees to proclaim to one another, “You are perfect! You are smart!” Although an unusual approach, I observed expressions of relief, joy, and wonderment in a room of 400 people. Why? Nichols explains, “This is the first time most of these people heard the truth of who they are; their heart muscles absorbed these words and evoked emotion.”

Breakdown to breakthrough
The term ‘breakdown’ conjures up thoughts of a ‘nervous breakdown’. Nichols believes an ‘emotional breakdown’ is the inability to express hurt; to say no when you need to, to say yes to something big, and the fear of being hurt again. These inabilities create cracks in the relationships we have with our self and others. Her personal example: “When I looked in the mirror and picked myself apart for being overweight, I didn’t love me and wished I was someone else. This didn’t serve me.” She explains, “It’s imperative to look at our ‘emotional breakdowns’, to mend them, not grow them, to build a stronger space to stand on, to believe in our self. This strengthens our emotional muscle, and turns breakdowns into breakthroughs. Then when a storm blows in you won’t move; who you choose to be isn’t up for negotiation.”

Internal conversations
“Quitters never win and winners never quit.” These wise words of support from Nichols’ grandma changed her negative inner chatter into winning outcomes. 
    
How we direct our energy is our choice, it can be usedto hinder or help our self. How do we change and empower ourselves, when day after day we are beaten down by negative self-talk? On page 58 of her book, Nichols’ helps identify negative self-talk, the lies that shaped your present reality; she then guides you to create goal-focused messages that enable you to reach your desired outcomes.

Can you love yourself enough?
Nichols observes, “Women live outside themselves. We’re into service, being with others. We’re an emoting gender, we want to relate. But ‘can you love yourself enough to be still in your own skin? Celebrate your temple?’ I don’t always and that’s okay, because now my muscles are toned.” At critical life junctures, Nichols learned to identify and tone what she adeptly calls ‘bounce back muscles’. The forgiveness, take-action, faith-in-myself, honesty, I-know-like-I-know, understanding, say-yes, determination, and highest choice muscles, shaped by overcoming challenges, help us to navigate life. In No Matter What!, her personal stories will resonate with your experiences. The practical ‘inspired action steps’ will tone your ‘bounce-back muscles’, teaching you to love you. Nichols leaves us with this insight, “Only when you love you enough, do you train others to love you.” H&L

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